Infidelity undoubtably hurts, and is exponentially amplified when the guilty party is someone you love; however, we need to remember this. The first time she/he cheats or lies either by omission or online, the blame rests solely with the cheating party and their lack of morals but, the second and third time, we have to begin to find the fortitude to look with in ourselves. Yes, the one who did everything right and still got played needs to look beyond the pain and the insecurities and realize we've enabling them to cheat by subconsciously devaluing ourselves and by forgiving someone that isn't ready to change by stepping out the shadows of promiscuity, and embracing the warm healing light of unconditional love. Life's most intricate challenges usually can be simplified down to an ultimatum and this is no different. Either find the strength to move on alone or, find the strength to move on together.
You will fail every time if you let your spouse pick and choose when to give you the simplest courtesies of honesty, faithfulness, transparency, and individualized attention. Especially when your spouse readily without prompt, gives them to their friends. Be cautious because this simultaneously represents entitlement and selfishness. Dishonesty, is a cowards commitment made for their own personal gain. Mistakes can happen sure but, they can only be cured with genuine sincerity and transparency not broken promises made behind closed doors that prohibit judgement from those most important in our lives.
Why relationships fail: Infidelity and insecurity are two strands of the same braid that twist people apart because, they act as the base for dishonesty. A relationship built on love, and interwoven with mutual understanding, must be solidified by honesty in order to erode the foundation of dishonesty; however, at the same time, we must acknowledge dishonesty and love are both equal and opposite forces. For instance, if you can be honest with your friends, and you love and value them above or on the same level as your family, you've demonstrated the ability to be able to make the same commitment of love and honesty to your boyfriend/girlfriend once the relationship reaches a certain threshold. But honesty is a fundamental building block that is essential to establishing and maintaining a healthy level of trust from the start of the relationship. You should adhere to this caveat if you want your relationship to have a chance of being successful.
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