We need to lessen the shame of knowing it's time to do better. It happens, it happens more than once and it happens in different contexts and different degrees, but it happens. The only shame is if you don't do something about it. Believe me, it's happened to me. Getting tired of using struggles as excuses, of knowing I was using unhealthy coping skills but doing it anyway because it felt easier. Well I realized, and it happened, that it wasn't easier and I was hurting myself and people I love because of it, so the bullshit had to stop. Doesn't mean I couldn't be gentle with myself, forgive myself and work towards a more genuine healthier way of being, because I was and I still am, but I needed to give myself the tough love to accept that what I was doing was not intentionally hurtful, but intentional or not, it was. And it's okay. I can't take it back, and I also can't continue to dwell on wanting to take it back, I could only do better. There are truly special people who see the you past the bullshit and unconditionally see your journey through, knowing the goodness of you that makes you a valued part of their life, but do this for those people then as well. Start with yourself, do it because you as an individual deserve better, but then give those wonderful people the goodness that they've always known was there
'bolsos pesados, coração mole e boa sorte'... eles sabem
boa noite #fitfam bom descanso e até amanhã
"According to Buddhism, the root of suffering is neither the feeling of pain nor of sadness nor even of meaninglessness. Rather, the real root of suffering is this never-ending and pointless pursuit of ephemeral feelings, which causes us to be in a constant state of tension, restlessness and dissatisfaction. Due to this pursuit, the mind is never satisfied. Even when experiencing pleasure, it is not content, because it fears this feeling might soon disappear, and craves that this feeling should stay and intensify. People are liberated from suffering not when they experience this or that fleeting pleasure, but rather when they understand the impermanent nature of all their feelings, and stop craving them. This is the aim of Buddhist meditation practices. In meditation, you are supposed to closely observe your mind and body, witness the ceaseless arising and passing of all your feelings, and realise how pointless it is to pursue them. When the pursuit stops, the mind becomes very relaxed, clear and satisfied. All kinds of feelings go on arising and passing – joy, anger, boredom, lust – but once you stop craving particular feelings, you can just accept them for what they are. You live in the present moment instead of fantasising about what might have been. The resulting serenity is so profound that those who spend their lives in the frenzied pursuit of pleasant feelings can hardly imagine it. It is like a man standing for decades on the seashore, embracing certain ‘good’ waves and trying to prevent them from disintegrating, while simultaneously pushing back ‘bad’ waves to prevent them from getting near him. Day in, day out, the man stands on the beach, driving himself crazy with this fruitless exercise. Eventually, he sits down on the sand and just allows the waves to come and go as they please. How peaceful!" #yuvalnoahharari#quoteoftheday#books#inspiration#motivation#instaquote#inspire#vibes#feelgood#zen#chakras#educate#philosophy#love#happiness#kindness#dreams#life#achievement#spirituality#meditation#mindfulness#explorer#wanderlust#cosmos#quote#travel#backpacking#backpacker#wanderlust
The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone and goes the extra mile is the person who goes to places she's never been before.
Choose your uniqueness.
Choose to live out loud in your own damn way.
Choose your heart of hearts aka passions.
Always go the extra mile, it's less crowded