Someone asked me if I could share some more on how my partner and I are handling being new parents. Well, let me tell you that I was rather unprepared for how it would change our practical every day living. See, I was so focused on preparing myself for having a baby and how that would be life changing and perhaps difficult at times, that I didn't even consider that my partner and I would be in a completely different life situation as well. Here are some examples: We used to be more equal in how we spent our time, for example during the evenings sitting by the computer. Now we're much more divided where my primary focus is taking care of the baby, and my partner primarily works during the day, and works on projects around the farm in the evenings. There's definitely been some conflict over that, and for both of us, we were a bit shocked how little time we had to ourselves. The solution has been to be flexible with one another (him stepping in to take the baby when I was exhausted and needed to sleep for example), but honestly, it's also more simply been a point of coming to terms with the situation and making the best of it. Another point that really caught me by surprise was how little time and opportunities we have had to have 'couples time'. We used to meet and watch a movie or give each other a massage a couple of nights a week and most nights we'd cuddle or talk in the dark before going to sleep. I miss that very much, so it's something we've had to make an effort to bring back into our lives because it doesn't happen as naturally. One solution here is to be more spontaneous and grab the moments that do come up, for example when the baby is sleeping. Another idea we have is to place an extra bed in the living room. I mean, this is really a 'make it work' situation where one has to be creative and persistent, to find those moments once in a while to be together - cause these moments are so important to nurture that relationship one still has with one's partner. I couldn't be more grateful to be with a man who's willing to work with me, and find ways to make it work - no matter what.